Tuppence, one month gone

[patm62]

I can't believe it's been a month already. it seems like only yesterday. I'm not doing too well with acceptance, not sleeping or eating, crying all over the place and still quite angry. Cracker's coping better, doing his best to play with wee Jakie, bless him, and Tess is still acting up a bit. Of course, if I don't pull myself together, it's harder for them. He was only 6, not even 7 as i thought. Far too young to go just like that. It was just so unexpected, getting my head round this cushing's stuff, and bang, didn't even get it properly diagnosed. He was such a sweet natured wee man, so gentle and funny. I'll miss him forever.
cheers pat

[labblab]

Such a sad milestone, Pat. Tuppy was far too young to leave you, and without even a chance for you to begin to prepare. If it wouldn't make you too sad, perhaps you'd tell us some more about his life? You mentioned elsewhere that he was a Crufts boy, with many sons and daughters in the ring. There have to be so many stories there for the telling. I would love to know more, if you feel up to it.

With warm regards,
Marianne

[KarenTascha]

Hello Pat,
It's so unfair to have lost you're beloved dog so young..

Great to hear the other dogs are coping with the loss of their friend.

Please try to pull you're self together for them and please do eat and drink a bit each day. Those other dogs need you to stay around.
I know it's easy for me to say..

We all would love to hear more stories about him if you are ready to tell them.

Big hugs to you.

Karen & Tascha

[sweetpea]

Hi Pat

Sorry to hear you are not coping well, but who can blame you? You do need to take care of yourself for your other pets. They are still here and they still need you.

Please do share some stories with us. I would love the read them.

Dawn and Gizmo

[Loraine]

Pat there is nothing sadder than the loss of a beloved pooch. I understand how you are feeling (I still miss my Coco 2 years on and have the teary times), but you must try to pull yourself together for the sake of the other littlies in your home. They feed on your grief, and it will make it harder for them to accept losing Tuppy.

Hugs
Loraine (Coco's Mum forever, Zedley's new Mum)

[mytil]

Dearest Pat,

One month really is not enough time - there is no set time line for grieving your little one. I still cry over my little Mytilda and miss her. Hug your little furbabies every moment you can and tell them softly about how you feel about Tuppy and them, it may sound silly, but that will help you and will help them by connecting more with you.

Tons of healing prayers to you - please keep telling how you are doing.
All my best
Terry (always Clancy and Mytilda's mom)

[labblab]

Dear Pat,

I just want to "second" what Terry has said above -- after only one month, you are still so very close to your grief. It may take a long, long time for the pain, and the jumble of feelings, to ease. But for me, I've found that it helps to sort things out a bit when I write them down. If that is also true for you, we will be here to keep reading anything that you want to write!!! I'm really hoping that we'll hear back from you again soon.

In the meantime, do try to take care ~
Marianne

[Unregistered]

so sorry for lousy post, had bad cold which went into chest infection, been laid up, and of course that didn't help my precarious mental state. spent some time on petloss forum and now know i'm hanging on the cross of guilt which is very common, so have unstrapped myself. i did the best i cld at the time and tho it wasn't enuf no point driving myself mad now. spent time scanning in photos and writing silly poems for his web page which helped. as i didn't get time to learn very much about cushings i can't contribute really on the message board with all these hundreds of people who have queries on their cushings dogs, but i'll keep having a look in here cos i know about pet loss. i don't remember being in this state when Tara died, but then she was 16 and u have time to prepare yourself as they age. it's still hard but maybe not as stunning as sudden young death. whatever, i have pulled up the bootstraps, and now if it would only stop raining....!
cheers pat

[labblab]

Hi, Pat!

I have three "glads" to start off with -- so glad that you've posted again, that you're over your cold and feeling better (no apology needed!), and especially that you found a pet loss forum that has helped you to feel more settled. If you think the pet loss forum would be a help to other members as well, please let either Terry ("mytil") or me know, so that we can add it to the "Resource" list on the "Healing our Broken Hearts" sub-forum. And if you feel comfortable with us visiting, also let us all know where we can find Tuppy's webpage!!

And please do keep checking back. There are a number of us here who feel as if we have limited advice to offer regarding treatment issues, but we stilll hope that we are offering support to all the other moms and dads.

With warm wishes,
Marianne

[Unregistered]

i found great support on the petloss.com site u advertise here, a very busy chatroom, message board, and a lovely candle ceremony. there's lots of knowledge here, and everyone's very supportive, i just didn't get time to find out much about cushings, tuppence was never even confirmed. altho he probly had it. the site isn't live yet, but i'll let u know. they will do free sites for anyone at petloss, lovely sites. spk soon
cheers pat

[mytil]

Hi Pat,

Just wanted to see how you are doing .... since your last post where you were pretty sick. When you get the chance, drop us a line.

Terry

[labblab]

Hi Pat,

I just saw your sweet post to Teresa, and wanted to tell you "hello." So hard to believe that three months have passed since Tuppy joined our other dear ones at the Bridge. I know it must still be so hard, but glad to hear that you are remaining strong for wee Jakie and Cracker and Tess. Do take care, and stay in touch with us...

With special thoughts of Tuppence this evening,
Marianne (forever Barkis' and Peg's mom)